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My boyfriend is pressuring me into doing sexual activities with him, which i'm not yet comfortable in doing. What should I do?

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My boyfriend is pressuring me into doing sexual activities with him, which I am not yet comfortable in doing. What should I do?

First of all, no one should ever do something that he or she is not comfortable in doing. Every individual has the right to their own body, which gives you full permission to say no. No one should ever pressure a partner in doing sexual activities. If you ever get yourself in this situation, it's important to let your boyfriend or girlfriend know your thoughts and feelings. You should be clear and concise in what you are ready to do, and what you are not ready to do.

If you are not ready to deal with the physical and mental consequences, don't do it. Your body is the most valuable thing that you own. It's not worth the risk you take by doing something that you are not ready for. If you are ready, it's important to be safe, and make sure that you talk things over with your partner before hand.

There is no such thing as 100% safe sex. If you choose to have sex you will be at risk of sexually transmitted infections (STI's) and pregnancy. There are many methods to help prevent these things from happening, but nothing is fully guaranteed. For girls there is; oral contraceptive pills such as birth control, injections, vaginal rings, female condoms and much more. It's important for guys to use condoms at all times to help prevent against harmful STI's. Make sure that you are well educated on this topic; there are many online sites that elaborate on this particular subject. One site that could be useful is http://www.positive.org/JustSayYes/index.html .

If your boyfriend or girlfriend continues to pressure you into sexual activities you need to stop and think "Is this really what you deserve?”. The answer is no. If your partner doesn't respect your decisions, then they are probably not right for you. Don't do anything just because someone wants you to; do it for you and no one else.

Love Momma Leo :)